God sure knew what He was doing when He sent me to T and M. He knew I would thrive with parents who supported me but did not stifle me. They have opinions about the world, events, and only occasionally about my life. I've had nearly complete freedom to flesh out my own life without the "shoulds" ("you should do this") or the "remembers" ("now, remember that..."). My mother especially is long overdue for an overwhelming thank you for caring immensely but never projecting her unfulfilled dreams on me. She's selflessly never monopolized me or my attentions and I've spent many years wishing my mom had been more involved in my life. Yet today it became evident that my mom is perfect. Perfect for me. Most mothers and daughters occupy about half the circle. My mom has meekly occupies as large a piece of the pie as I allow and when I seek her and her opinions and hopes and happenings out, I am richly rewarded by a brave, witty, saintly woman who has triumphed in her own way.
I hope as a mom someday I can "get out of the way" as she's done and truly put my children first and not my own judgments. 10 weeks early: Happy Mothers' Day my one and only Mother!
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